There are so many reasons why our hearts hurt. Maybe someone said something, did something, didn't do something. Maybe they don't even know that they hurt you. Maybe something happened and its circumstantial or situational. Maybe your past keeps knocking on the door and reminds you of things that hurt you before...maybe you just woke up and your heart hurt and you don't really know why.
I think we all have days, phases, times in our life when our heart hurts. Sometimes for moments, sometimes for long periods of time and some times its just a lot deeper than others.
Being "sensitive", I've had my share of heart hurting moments...so I thought I'd share some things I do to try to get myself to feel better. Hopefully it helps you too!
Pray this is the first thing I do. I always ask God to help my heart heal. Since it always seems so out of my control anyways, I figure I should ask help from someone who has control
Breathe take some loooooonnnng deeeeeeep breathes. Seriously, I often feel like my chest is tight and I can't breathe. The simple act of consciously taking deep breathes actually helps. And maybe the oxygen to the brain will help you think more clearly.
Timeout put yourself in timeout. If you need a minute, take it. Go for a walk, a run, a drive, sit on a log at the beach. sit at the park and give yourself some space.
Perspective remind yourself that you are having a bad day...and just because you are having a bad day doesn't mean you have a bad life. Its so easy to throw everything into one pit and think that EVERYTHING sucks... everything does NOT suck... which brings me to the next thing...
Gratitude remind yourself of things that you are thankful for. Whether it be big or small. Having a thankful heart really changes your mood.
Forgive easier said than done... I know. Forgiveness isn't always a one time thing. Sometimes forgiving means choosing to forgive over and over and over.... Letting go of your right to be mad, even if you are right, is really freeing. I love the quote "forgive not because they deserve it, but because you deserve to live in peace"
Give some away I always have that childhood song in my head "love is something if you give it away.. you end up having more". When you give love, your heart fills with love too. BUT you have to allow it to be filled. Sometimes we don't allow love in because we are stubborn, hurt or mad...but let your heart be filled. sounds cheesy, but I'm serious!
Music there is something about music that is healing. I often put on worship music and all of a sudden I feel my heart healing. So if there is music that helps you, blast that baby!
Write write it down girl! sometimes we don't even know what we are feeling. So writing it down can be really cleansing and help you sort out all of your feelings...
Time give yourself time. I don't know if time heals all wounds, but I do know that sometimes you have to allow yourself to feel....just know when time is up :)
friends surround yourself around those you love and that love you. Its amazing what an encouraging word, a gently hug or a piece of cake with good company can do.
Hope all of you have less times where you heart needs healing and more days filled with joy.
Hello everyone!!
Here are some products I've been loving this month. I love these kinds of videos because it helps me spend money I shouldn't. HAHA!!
enjoy.
Products Mentioned:
Palmer's coconut oil conditioner (Walmart)
Sun Labs Self Tanner (sunlabs.com)
Claires neon polish in hot stuff (Claires)
Pixi poreess and flawless primer (Target)
Etude house goodbye pore ever primer (Amazon)
Skin 2 Spirit caffeine eye whip (Amazon)
Clarisonic Mia sensitive (Amazon)
Milani Color statement lipstick in Violet Volt (Target, CVS, Walmart)
Nivea lip butter in vanilla and macadamia kiss (Target)
MAC soft and gentle mineralize skin finish (MAC)
Hard Candy baked bronzer in tropics (Walmart)
Laura Geller baked blush in maui (Laurageller.com)
Laura Geller imPressions bronzer in medium (Laurageller.com)
Thermacare back wraps (Target)
I feel like I'm on an endless search for a good eye cream...or WAS on an endless search. I feel like most eye creams are expensive and don't do all that much. I was on Amazon the other day and discovered this eye cream that had great reviews, so I decided to give it a try.
I have to say.... I love it!
Here is my review of it... if you have any other eye creams that you swear by, let me know!
Here is the direct link to it on Amazon >> Caffeine Eye Whip <<
Hope this was helpful!
So the other day I was organizing loads of makeup and realize I have fallen into a rut of just doing the same thing every day. Makeup is fun! so I'm going to try to go back into a rotation.
Here is a look for the day (I'll try to post more tutorials when I can too)
Ipsy is a monthly subscription where you get 4-5 deluxe beauty samples for $10.
I had subscribed and then unsubscribed because I didn't like the first couple they had. Then re-subscribed after seeing the bags following. I definitely think have gotten progressively better with each one.
I noticed a couple years ago that when certain holidays approached, I would start getting anxious, agitated, moody...annoyed.
Doesn't seem like a normal reaction to a holiday that is suppose to be about celebration, love....family.
I realize now why I am that way. Holidays are connected to memories, childhood..and again... family.
Although I wish I could say everyone had a good childhood, a good relationship with their parents and fond memories to look back on, I know that-that is not the case.
I know that I'm not the only one that has mixed feelings about holidays.
I think holiday's put a magnifying glass on what was and how things are. The mixture of seeing people who do enjoy these holidays with a fondness and the realization of where you are.. isn't always so pleasant. Simple fundamentals of those relationships like love, support and encouragement sometimes are a hard reality to swallow.
I remember a couple of years back looking for a Father's day card, as I do every year and going through row after row of cards that said things like "you're the best dad ever" or "you have taught me so many things" or "from daddy's little princess" I was so annoyed that there wasn't just a blank card that said "Happy Father's Day". Like every other year I left the store feeling frustrated and mad at card companies for being so insensitive. HAHAHA!! geez, not everyone has a freakin awesome relationship full of butterflies and rainbows!
but in all this pouting and throwing tantrums inside myself pacing up and down card aisles I realized that I need to change.
I'm not a kid anymore. Now I'm a mom, a wife...a grown up. I need to change how I think about holidays and change the memory of them. For me AND for MY family. I don't want my kids to remember holidays as the days mom is super moody... or when we didn't do enough because she didn't seem happy. Mother's day has a new meaning for me now. As does Christmas, birthdays, Father's day and any other day that is cause for celebration. Now I get to celebrate my family and what those days mean to us. My life is filled with love, support, encouragement and so much more from this little family we have created. So I have cause to celebrate. Celebrate having the privilege to hear my kids call me mom. Having a husband that encourages me, supports me and uplifts me.
So I am making a conscious effort to change how I think and enjoy what is.
So if you have mixed feelings. whether its from past memories, experiences, relationships, or maybe your loved ones are no longer with you and it is a reminder of that... try to change the way you approach, enjoy and celebrate. I know that it is hard and you have to make a conscious effort... but maybe we can try together.
I feel like a husky! Loving these icy, aqua blue contacts from contactlensxchange.com. For those of you who have asked before this where all of my circle lenses are from!
These have kind of a kaleidoscope/snowflake pattern on them. I thought it might look kind of weird when I put them in my eyes but I actually like the effect it gives!
They come in this cute box. one pair per box. If you are like me and have a different prescription in each eye you will have to order two separate boxes (so you will have two pairs!)
$19.50/ per box and are monthly wear lenses.
This is what it looks like in the package. The limbal ring isn't a very dense, jet black so I think that helps with the transition of colors on dark eyes.
I love them! they are little more icy aqua blue opposed to a bright turquoise kind of blue.
I am so excited about the new Laura Geller products, they are perfect for summer! A lot of these products are waterproof or water resistant, long wearing and contain SPF. I love that beyond these being good "makeup" products a lot of them also have benefits for the skin containing anti-aging, vitamin and other nutrients to actually better your skin as you wear it!
Laura Geller is available at Ulta, Nordstrom, QVC and laurageller.com
Baked Blush in Maui
Warm, pearlescent, rosy blush. The finish of this blush is so nice. Its smooth and silky, and although you get a lot of powder on your brush...it doesn't go on your face chalky and powdery. It really blends well and gives you a pretty healthy color. Love how pretty this color is!
Baked imPRESSions Bronzer in medium
I have been looking for a good bronzer for...well forever. I have a drawer full of muddy, shimmery..not so sunkissed bronzers. I love that this bronzer is: matte, smooth, and has a natural sun kissed color. On top of that, perfect for summer! It's water, heat, humidity resistant! and to top it off it has super antioxidants. What's not to love? It also comes with this ultra soft, angled kabuki travel brush....love it!
Left: baked blush in maui Right: impressions bronzer
Spackle Supercharged fortified under make-up Primer
This primer is not like any other primer I've tried before. Other primers have that silicone-y, gel like feeling that instantly make your skin look and feel matte. This primer feels almost like an under eye treatment. Very light and moist.
It comes with this metal roller that instantly has a cooling effect on your face. You just squeeze the tube and start rolling away! Since it is the first thing you apply, it is a nice way to wake up your face in the morning! Feels so good!
I don't know if you can see in this picture, but I tried to capture the itty bitty little iridescent quality it has. It is so subtle but it gives your face a warm and healthy glow. If you don't wear face makeup you can wear it just for a more healthy glow and reap the ant-aging, detox and protecting qualities it has!
BB Cream with SPF 21
I'm sure you've heard of bb cream. This one is water resistant along with all the other benefits that bb creams have. I like that this one is light, like a tinted moisturizer for those days where its just too hot to put on a full face of foundation.
What I liked most about this bb cream opposed to the others I have is that it doesn't have that pastey grey cast that others have, or that makeup with spf has. It blends seamlessly into your skin. It is definitely not full coverage, but if you just wanted to even out your skin tone and maybe spot conceal its perfect. Feels light, blends well and isn't sticky at all.
Color Enriched Anti-aging lipstick in Tiger Lily
woo hoo! I've been looking for a great coral lipstick that wasn't too orange for a while. Its hard finding one that doesn't make your teeth look yellow or grey! This formula is so smooth it feels like you're wearing a conditioning lip balm. Its the color I'm wearing in the picture above. I love that its a little sheer so perfect for hot summer days and nights!
Color Drenched Lip Gloss in Raspberry Roast
This color totally reminds me of Hanna from Pretty Little Liars. A perfect berry color. This is more of a liquid lipstick than a lip gloss. its super pigmented and opaque. If you have more fine lines around your mouth this might bleed,but you can always put on less and pat with your finger. Love this color and how non sticky, but moisturizing it is!
Left: Pout perfect lip liner in Petal (I forgot to take a picture of the liner) although it looks dark, its actually very close to my natural lip color which is great because I can wear it under any lipstick. It's creamy and smooth. waterproof.
Middle: Lipstick in Tiger Lily
Right: Lip gloss in raspberry roast
Inkwell Waterproof Gel Liner Duo in Black
Another product I have a drawer full of. Its hard to find a gel liner that is waterproof, but still smooth and opaque. So far so good. Wore it all day in the rain, pregnancy hot flashes and tears...and its still on!
It comes with a little brush in the lid too that actually works well!
Goes on super black and creamy. Great for getting in between lashes and doesn't pull or tug at all!
products were generously provided by Laura Geller. all opinions are completely my own.
It's funny because I feel like most moms say that after baby #1 each pregnancy goes by so fast. Not with me. I feel like I've been pregnant forever. I think the 4 months of continual vomiting and not being able to eat totally took it out of me. I have to say that some of the other un-enjoyable side effects are creeping up on me too. My back has been killing me and although I'm so sleepy and nodding off all day, I can't manage to fall asleep at night...and of course, I'm STILL nauseous.
My secret hopes for a calm mellow child might be out the window too. This little boy moves ALL the time. I swear I one day a foot is going to pop out of my butt! haha!!
We are definitely happy and done after this baby. BUT the thought of never going through labor and having a newborn again after this makes me sad. Does every mom go through this? or are most moms happy they don't have to go through this anymore?! I know I am strange as I love labor day so much. Even through the pain, the excitement and anticipation... the marvel of giving birth always amazes me. Its a feeling that cannot be compared to anything else in the world.
So even through the daily discomforts, I'm trying to enjoy each crampy, need to pee, sore, moody moment. With that said, my pants are getting tighter...I need to find some more clothing options~
I know everyone's experience, triggers and severity of eczema are different. Although there are no known causes, there are some things you can do to help treat it and find temporary relief.
When I was little my eczema was so bad that my elbow pits (is that what they are called?!) and backside of my knees especially were always raw, cracking and bleeding. It was horrible. Those were my major trouble spots, but I also had it all over my body including my face.
I truly believe that somewhere along the line I got healed of the severe eczema, but I still have super sensitive skin and have patches that show up here and there. 2 of my kids seem to have mild eczema as well. One on the body and one on the face.
Although I had been given prescription topical creams for my skin, there are some things that helped me when I had flare ups and relieved the pain and itch (even if just temporarily)
I know a lot of people have it and a lot of moms are looking for relief for their kids so I thought I would share and hopefully it helps someone even a little!
Things to Avoid:
Tight fitting clothes
certain fabrics (mohair, wool etc)
detergent with perfumes or dyes
taking long hot showers or baths
harsh exfoliators
scented lotions, body sprays
extreme dryness/moisture
allergens, know what you are allergic to
Things to Try:
loose fitting, breathable fabrics
witch hazel to reduce inflammation
let your body air dry after a shower/bath
a gentle exfoliator for dry skin
extra virgin olive oil
creams/bath products with oatmeal
cold packs
aloe vera
aquaphor
baking soda (mix with water and make paste)
cool/lukewarm bath with milk and almond oil
cold pressed coconut oil
hydrocortisone
calamine lotion
Vitamin E
Apply strong chamomile tea to gauze and apply to affected area
These nails are showing up a lot more pink, but they are actually a VERY neon/flourescent pink in person.! I did these last night was I was watching a very stressful Amazing Race. I just started watching for the first time...and whew!!! some of these couples stress me out!
Had a minute to myself so I took a spontaneous trip to Ross to find some loose tops that can accommodate my growing belly. Found some cute things! I always forget how many cute and cheap things you can find there. I usually walk in, see the line curling around the aisle and walk back out!
Ain't nobody got time for that!! haha!
I also received these cute sunglasses from House of Sunglasses. All of their sunglasses are $9.99! They came at the perfect time because all my sunglasses magically disappear. I swear they are hiding out somewhere with my bobby pins.
I know I'm a bit old for the heart ones, but hey.. my 6 year old daughter thins I'm cool. :)
I need to get back to my nail art! People always ask me how I have time to do my nails with little kids.. these nails took me about 15 minutes for both hands. All I have to say, is get a good quick drying top coat! Several days later my bows are still on and I haven't had any chipping yet! I will be sharing my nails more often on here... I will try to do more tutorials, but that takes a lot more time (which I don't always have!)
What I used:
Sally Hansen Xtreme wear polish in: White on, Black out
Hard Candy polish in: Sugar Rush (my daughter says it looks like oreo mikshake! haha!)
White bows: I got this little bow kit off of Amazon for around $3
This is the glue I'm using to keep my nail bows/gems on. Aleene's jewelry glue
in pen form. I got it at michael's and hasn't dried up at all. It takes a bit longer to dry, but they stay on until I take them off!
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