Wednesday, November 6, 2013

Too Blessed to be Stressed

I am by nature a high-stress, anxiety stricken, over thinking, hypersensitive, emotional woman.
It's something that I have always struggled with, since childhood. Needless to say it presents itself every day in every situation. I always thought it was just something that  was a part of who I was...and I, along with anyone who was near me, just simply had to deal with. 
I had an enlightening moment not that long ago. As long as I accept that it was a part of me and I couldn't break up with it... it was going to ruin family vacations, fun events, birthday parties, moments with my children and communication with my husband. Then I thought, I can't live like this. I have to change. 
Me and stress, we need to break up.

It's hard to re-wire yourself to think in a way you've never thought before and to go against what seems normal and natural.  I started noticing people around me who didn't seem to get so uptight, high strung and worked up over things. They had a lot in common. They laughed a lot, they let things roll off their shoulders... really, they didn't make anything a big deal. what?! to me EVERYTHING was a big deal. From socks left on the ground, to garbage not taken out... everything was infuriating to me. Why didn't everyone see the urgency and importance of everything I did? I noticed throughout the day all these little things built up and built up. I could feel my blood pressure rising. 
when I had this "enlightened" moment I realized, all those things, they don't matter. People matter. My relationship with my kids matter. The state of my marriage matters. Those "things" don't matter. 
What is the point of having a perfectly packed suitcase with nothing missing if I'm chewing out my husband or snapping at my kids in the process. Ruins the point of a nice family getaway doesn't it?

So now when I wake up in the morning I try to take a moment. An extra moment if I wake up grouchy, and I breathe. Deep breaths. Close my eyes and Thank God for all He has given me. I tell myself, nothing is a big deal. Choose happiness. Choose joy. Choose love. Nothing is a big deal. Relax. 
I tell myself this repeatedly throughout the day. Relax. It's not a big deal. Don't hurt your kids heart or your husband's feelings simply because YOU are stressed. Laundry can wait, dishes can be dirty... you can be late... THEY matter.
Do I still feel stress? yes. Do I feel the anxiety creeping in and the frustration build? yes. But I'm aware of it now. As long as I'm aware of it, I have a better chance of fighting it. 

Light a scented candle. Play some uplifting music. Dance for a second with your kids. STOP what you're doing, listen to what your kids are telling you. Give your husband a hug. smile. laugh...nothing is THAT big of a deal.

I am blessed. I am thankful. I choose joy.

1 comment:

  1. I just wanted to let you know that this blog post has helped me tremendously. It was as if you were talking directly about me. I'm pregnant with my 4th (due in Feb) and I would say that my high stress attitude was just b/c I'm pregnant. You have helped me see that I am always stressed and how toxic it is for relationships. Thx!